My favorite month of the year is here and I can’t be more overjoyed than I am at this moment simply because it’s my birth month. I’m closing chapter 20 in a couple of weeks and a few days. I’ve been making announcements about my birthday and sending out my gift registry on all my socials and people can’t fathom why I’m so excited for my birthday (And no, it’s not because I’m turning 21).
Conversations with friends and acquaintances about birthdays left me stunned. I was puzzled by why birthdays don’t excite a lot of people anymore, when I asked why, I received answers such as “It’s just a normal day”, “I don’t see the need to celebrate it”, “So? There’s nothing really special about it”, or the biggest one of them all “I don’t have the money to celebrate/do what I want”. Hearing all those responses time and time again from different people began to sound like a broken record and I nearly bit the head off (with excitement though) from the last person I had a conversation with about birthdays and celebrating them.
Yhall make me sad (please excuse my slang). Your birthday isn’t just a normal day or at least it shouldn’t be to you. The special thing about your birthday is you, you should celebrate it because you’ve been through storms in your life that seemed like you were never going to make it to the other side but God got you through and you don’t need tons of money to do the most on your birthday (stick to your financial lane).
When I sit back and think that there were weeks on end where I’d sleep with my pillow soaked in my tears because the hurt was that bad, there were days I went to sleep praying I don’t wake up the next morning and then I’d wake up with inability to move from my bed because I saw no purpose for my being. Those were things I lived through, I was present in each and every moment, I wasn’t just alive and that is why I’m so grateful for each and every rainbow I find at the end of all my storms and that is why I show God and myself so much gratitude, that is why I celebrate my birthday and not just mine but everyone around me. 9 times out of 10 I’m more excited than my friends for their birthdays because they are that much of a big deal.
Now I’m not say throw a huge birthday celebration or fly to Dubai and do the most that side of the world (although it would be nice if you can) but at least put in effort love. Get your hair done, buy yourself that shoe you’ve been eyeing or sleep in. You should give yourself some TLC on a regular basis but go the extra extra mile on your birthday. Write love letters to yourself or give back to those less fortunate. Do something, even doing nothing with the intention of doing nothing being celebrating your day is something, you get me?
The same way it’s easier to get things done when you’ve recharged is the same way you do better in life when you take care of yourself and that coincidentally (not really) means celebrating yourself too.
What do you do to celebrate your birthday? What would you like to do to celebrate your birthday? How have you spent past birthdays?
Lets chat. Love Lelo.